Monday, March 9, 2009

The Adoption Process and Where We Are in the Process.

Okay, we thought we'd take a minute and explain a little bit about the adoption process and then tell you where we are in all of this. The first thing we did when we knew we wanted to adopt was select an agency and then fill out an application. We did this back in January of 2008. Once the agency accepts your application, you start the "paper chasing" phase of the process. During this time you collect all kinds of documents from official birth certificates and letters of employment, to tax documents, reference letters, fingerprints, and everything in between. You also meet with a social worker for a few visits. She evaluates you, your marriage, and your home to ensure that you will make good parents. The social worker gathers documents, makes an assessment and compiles this information in a "Home Study" document. This documentation is needed by the US government in order to gain approval for adoption. Once you are receive this approval, then you go through the process of getting all the documents you collected notarized, county certified, state certified, and authenticated. These official papers along with your home study make up your "dossier" and are then sent to Ethiopia. Are you tired yet?! Our dossier went to Ethiopia on August 1st 2008. Now we are "on a wait list" for a child. We were allowed to choose the age and sex of the baby and we asked for an infant girl less than 12 months old. When it's our turn, we will receive a "referral". This means that we will get a phone call letting us know that there is a baby available for us. We will then be sent a picture of the baby along with medical records. Once this information is reviewed and we've accepted the referral, a court date will be set in the Ethiopian courts to finalize the adoption. Our agency has told us that it takes 9-11 months from the time the dossier goes to Ethiopia for us to get a referral. We are in month 7! So, that means we are hoping to get our referral as early as May and hopefully no later than July. We hope to travel to Ethiopia to pick up our little girl a few months after that but we'll have a better idea about travel once we get our referral. The Ethiopian courts close in the summer for two months so things might be delayed as a result of that. We're really hopeful that we won't run into that. Let's hope our referral comes in May!! So that's where we are in the process. It probably sounds like a lot of work but really it's been the best thing that has ever happened to us. If you could just see Steve light up when he talks about this little girl that he's never met, you'd know what I mean. It's just so awesome to be in love with the thought of someone. If this is the way we feel now, I can't imagine what it will feel like when we actually meet her! We're in trouble! We love to talk about her so please ask us if you have any questions. It's amazing to see how excited everyone is for us and we want to share this with you as much as possible.

9 comments:

  1. I absolutely love it! I am crying for joy right now as I read all that your heart longs for and that you are sharing your journey with us!!! This is perfect in every way!!!!

    Love,
    Betty

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  2. me too. definately need some kleenex available on this blogsite. DaddyApple

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  3. It's so strange. I was thinking of you two or should I say three this morning. I'm glad that I have a way to keep up with everything. I'm so excited for your family!!

    It's awesome that you are having fundraisers for your little girl. I'm going to check out the T-shirts when I'm done typing. They look pretty cool.

    Can't wait to go on this journey with you all.
    We'd still love to take you guys to get Ethiopian food sometime. We're eating there tonight and Friday.

    I'm coming back on Saturdays in April. I'd love to see you and catch up.

    BIG BIG HUGS TO YOU!!!

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  4. Saw your blog in Mid Tenn Now. Good luck with your adoption journey. I believe we're just a month or two ahead of you in the process! -Lori

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  5. We met at the AWA African Fellowship in Sept. Our family is just ahead of you in line for a little girl. Maybe we will be traveling together! We'll be sure to follow your blog...you have been in our prayers since Sept.

    Erica R.
    DTE 07-25-08

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  6. Awesome, guys!! We are so excited for you. Maybe your referral will come sooner than expected, like ours, and we will travel together!

    Hope to see you very soon.

    Jason

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  7. Nice to meet you guys!! We're with AGCI and are part of the local fellowship group...We got our referral on February 10th for a precious baby girl but lost her on March 10th..her birth mome came back and changed her mind...It has been a crazy roller coaster ride but we're back at the #1 spot waiting on a new referral....Referral Day was so worth the wait...It will be the BEST day ever for you guys :) good luck with your concert, kristi brentwood, Tn

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  8. This is a BEAUTIFUL Blog!!
    It goes so well with your beautiful hearts for Jesus and for His lambs.
    Kisses for Kaiyin!!
    Love, Gillian

    "He gathers the lambs in His arms and carries them close to His heart."

    Hey, Richard just ran into a lady at the ZOO who was proudly sporting one of Kaiyin's shirts!! She was telling people about your adoption and said she had been unaware of the need for adoption until she met you all.
    We are ordering shirts for our crew right now.
    Love to you!!

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  9. Elmira...
    You came up at a baby shower for Kelly this weekend *she's due in May, baby boy...

    I am not even sure WHO passed on your info, but I have bookmarked your blog, and am anxious for you and your family...

    She sounds perfect :)

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